That’s what I told myself, ‘Michelle shush your mouth!’ I talk too much. Bad habit you know. But I’m not as bad as you think. It’s subtle but still, I’m learning to keep my mouth shut.
It can seem harmless to share a plan or a general idea with a friend, thinking that it won’t matter what their opinion is or what they have to say about it. But their response can create doubts that you didn’t expect to arise. Yep, a harmless convo can easily turn into a dream killer!
When we share our view on someone’s plan for their lives, we – without knowing – do it in pros and cons. We voice what seems comfortable for us, from our perspective and rarely putting ourselves in their shoes. Without realising it, we sometimes come across negative towards someone else’s choices. We don’t do it on purpose. We don’t notice because those are not our plans.
That’s why I’m choosing to keep my mouth shut. I’ve had too many experiences where sharing potential plans with others has actually made me doubt what I intend to do. Then I had to shake off that doubt and set myself back on track when I could have avoided it altogether.
So now, I’m taking a page out of my husband’s book and giving everyone ‘the silent treatment’. Not literally, but only when it comes to the things that I don’t need an unintended personal opinion on. And they’ll know about that plan when it comes to fruition.
After all, who doesn’t love surprises?
In collaboration with Patricia Motondo