One of two things happen when you see others do well. You either become motivated or anxious. Both of these feelings lead you to take actions, but one is for the right reason and the other is done with the wrong intention.
I have experienced motivation due to seeing a friend do well. This person took a step in their career that silently encouraged me to do the same, because at the time I had reached a plateau. And I will always be grateful for that.
However, when you find that you’re becoming anxious, it’s because instead of being happy for others, you compare yourself to their success. Then you start to do things in a hurry without properly evaluating the steps you need to take. It may seem as though you’re making moves – especially on social media – , but those actions don’t bear fruit because they weren’t well thought out, they were done in a hurry as if you’re racing that person you’re eyes are glued to, and they’re being done with the wrong intention.
The solution for this is:
- If you can’t genuinely be happy for others success, stop watching them.
- Stop comparing yourself to other people.
- Run at your own pace.
Just do you. Take your focus off others and watch your own every move. Don’t feel that just because someone is doing something, you need to be moving as fast as them. Everyone’s journey and pace is different. What’s most important is that you are progressing for YOU, whether that’s slowly or rapidly, and not for others or to make a point. And don’t allow others judgement of what they think you are or are not doing, to influence you to take rash action.
Have a great start to the week!